10 Things You Must Let Go Of Today…

Some times you have to let go of things to allow new, more useful things, into your life. Letting go can be difficult, but it can also be very positive and rewarding. Here are a few things you MUST let go of if you truly hope to live a happy and positive life…

Let Go Of…

  • Guilt: Does guilt ever change the situation? Can it reverse time and change the past? The answer is NO! Guilt has no use what-so-ever. Let it go and get on with living. Take whatever it is that is making you feel guilty and use it as a lesson learned.
  • Negative Thinking: Negative thinking is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. One negative thought leads to another, which leads to a snowball effect of thinking that you can’t control. Pay close attention to your thoughts by noticing your feelings, if you are thinking something that is potentially negative turn it around immediately and replace it with something positive. This simple act will make a world of difference to your mood, and your life over all.
  • Need for Approval: Stop trying to get approval from others. Accept that you can not please everyone and focus on pleasing yourself. What others think doesn’t matter, your life is about how ‘you’ feel, accept that and enjoy it.
  • Anger/Heartbreak: Everyone has suffered at some point. We have all had our hearts broken or been hurt in the past. Let it go and allow yourself to move forward. Holding grudges and being bitter does not change the past, but it can have a great impact on your future and can even prevent happiness from entering your life.
  • Fake Friends: Having 438 friends on Facebook does not mean you have 438 friends. Chances are you have a few people online and in your life that are not ‘real’ friends, or that don’t really add to your life in any way. Break the negative connection and let these people go, true friends are hard to find but they add substance to our lives and they are always there when we need them.
  • Procrastination: Stop procrastinating, just stop. If there is something that needs to be done, just do it. Period. Procrastination is a bad habit and the longer you practice it the harder the habit is to break.
  • Envy: Envy is another one of those things that gets you nowhere. Why aspire to be someone else when your life is perfect just the way it is? Stop trying to keep up with the Joneses and be happy with the way things are.
  • Self-Doubt: A negative self-image can have a huge impact on your well-being, let go of your self-doubt and embrace self-love. Forget the ten pounds you think you need to lose, look past the flaws you see in yourself, and stop thinking you are not good enough. You are what you create in your mind, so point out 10 fantastic things about yourself right now and start sharing those great things with others. Chances are the more you love yourself, the more others will appreciate and love you as well.
  • Limitations: Your limitations are what you make them, if you doubt you can do something you will fail in your attempts. Stop putting limitations on yourself and reach for the sky. Your self-imposed limitations are the only thing holding you back from accomplishing your goals.
  • Time: Stop focusing on the clock. In today’s modern world everything we do revolves around time. Time for work, time for dinner, time for meetings, calls, and rest. Outside of work let go of the time restraints and simply do what feels right for you, stop living life by the minute and start living the life you want.
It can be difficult to break these habits listed above. There is challenge and obstacles each of these examples presents, but overcoming these challenges will help you achieve the balance and positivity you want in your life and is well worth the effort. Choose one, two or a few of the examples above and make the choice to change your actions today. One small change now can mean big changes in the future, consider what is most important to your life and live accordingly.
Until Next Time…
Let It Go!
What are some of the things in your life that you need to let go of?
What are some changes you have made that changed the way you live?
Name one thing that is holding you back from living a more positive life. 
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40 Little Lessons to Simplify Life

Simplified living means different things for different people. For some it means ridding themselves of  all but the essential items they need in life, for others it means having more time for themselves, whatever simplified living means to you there is one basic involved; Simplified living means creating peace and harmony in your life and making each day as easy as possible. Below are a few tips and tricks to living life more simply the easy way, every day.

40 Lessons that will help simplify your life:

  1. Accept that you can not please everyone and stop trying to. – No matter how hard you try, you are never going to please all the people, all the time, so stop trying to and focus only on pleasing yourself. “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” – Dr. Seuss
  2. Be honest and open, it saves time. – Don’t try to read other people’s minds, and most importantly, don’t expect them to be able to read yours. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Honesty and openness saves a great amount of time and energy.
  3. Stick to a budget and live below your means. – Living your life with money to spare is far more pleasurable than living paycheck to paycheck. Create a budget for yourself that allows you those ‘extra pleasures’ in life from time-to-time, but remember that they are pleasures and not for everyday. Fancy cars, huge houses and expensive items wont create happiness, enjoy these things in moderation in order to truly appreciate their worth.
  4. Start your day ahead of schedule. – One of the greatest lessons I ever learned was to set my clock 15 minutes ahead and to rise 30 minutes earlier each day. This simple act changed my life. Getting up earlier in the morning and having time to spare by setting your clocks ahead, are two simple ways of relieving large amounts of stress. How often do you rush around because you are going to be late? How often are you actually late? Being behind schedule in any setting is stressful, and when it is happening on a regular basis it can actually be hazardous to your health. By implementing these small acts, you can solve a number of those issues and you wont even notice the difference.
  5. When it comes to cleaning, find corners you can cut. – A much as we would all love to have a pristine home, the truth is cleaning your house can easily eat up a large amount of our time. Often it seems this time could be better spent doing something you actually enjoy. Unless you are a natural-born Molly Maid and you actually enjoy scrubbing the floors on your hands and knees, you should find ways to save time cleaning the house and cut corners where you can. For example: By doing a deep mop every week and simply spot mopping when you need to, you will save you a small chunk of time each day. Find easier ways of doing things and work them into your cleaning schedule to save yourself some time, and energy.feeling overwhelmed
  6. Stop obsessing about other people, be true to yourself.  – Jealousy, anger and envy are a waste of time. When you spend your time wishing you were someone else, that you had the possessions of someone else, or being angry with someone else, you are only competing with yourself. Let go of these negative emotions and be at peace with who you are. Accept that you are not perfect, but rather that you are unique. Enjoy those things that make you, you.
  7. Get your home, and work place, organized once and for all.  – One of the best things you can do if you want to simplify your life is to get your personal space organized. People waste a huge amount of time simply looking for things. By having a place for everything, and having everything in its place, you can save yourself large blocks of time each day, and even bigger blocks of time each week or month. Spend some time getting your home and work place in order and save time in the years to come. Once you have it accomplished keeping up with it is easy, it will also save a great deal of time when it comes to cleaning. (See #5 above)
  8. Purge regularly, both people and possessions, that have no use in your life. – Clutter creates chaos. Every once in a while it is important that we clear our lives of the clutter that is weighing us down, this applies to both physical items and people. Look around you right now, how many things do you see that have not been used in one month? three months? six months? a year? Now consider the people in your life. How many of them bring nothing for you? How many drag you down? Get rid of anything that has either no purpose, no positivity or no presence. Repeat regularly.
  9. Stay on top of debt.  – One late payment leads to another, which leads to another, which leads to a mountain of debt that is difficult to manage. Stay on top of debt by paying attention to your expenses. Pay cash for everything and avoid credit cards as much as you can. When a bill arrives, pay it, don’t let yourself fall behind. Debt causes extensive stress, and can even ruin relationships, cause depression and destroy lives, live life comfortably with the ability to keep ahead. (See #3 above)
  10. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.  – Swallow your pride and seek out a helping hand when you are in need. Why waste your time struggling to figure something out when you can simply ask someone who knows the answer? Often times we are so ashamed to admit we can’t do something that we drive ourselves mad trying to do it anyway. Get off your high-horse and allow someone else to do it for you. A full life is about filling the holes, allow others to do what they do best so you can do what you do best as well.
  11. Plan ahead.– Save yourself time by being prepared. One way of saving time is to live life during off hours, go grocery shopping on a weekday afternoon, hit the gym mid-day or fill up on gas on your way home from work and not during the morning rush. Planning ahead and utilizing off-time can save you a great deal of time that can be better spent on yourself and your life.
  12. Keep track of tasks, utilize technology. – Utilize technology to keep track of your tasks. Most email providers offer schedule options that will remind you of important events, most cell phones are equipped with day planners, and there are also a plethora of sites that offer electronic to-do lists. Use these advances in technology to help you keep track of what you need to get done to help keep your life more organized and efficient.
  13. Focus on one thing at a time. – Get over being the multi-task champion of the world. Focus on one task at a time instead of trying to do ten things at once. By doing one thing at a time you are more likely to actually complete the task, when we take on several different things we often end up overwhelmed and few of them end up being completed. Some times the ones that do are not done to the best of our ability either, so instead of wearing yourself thin and pushing to the limits, focus on each task separately. Even if you can only devote 5 minutes of undivided attention to a task, focus for that 5 minutes, each little bit helps and it will be less stressful on you in the long-run.
  14. Cherish your family and friends. – Friends and family have a great impact on our happiness. Take time to cherish and appreciate those closest to you and enjoy what they bring to your life.
  15. Always finish what you start. – Unfinished projects are the equivalent of clutter. (See #8 above) If you are not going to be able to finish a project, don’t start it at all, or in the very least don’t start it until you can. Being surrounded by unfinished work will drag you down mentally, and can cause you to feel defeated, it can also lead to even more procrastination and a snowball of negativity that is difficult to stop once it has begun.time flies
  16. Don’t put off until later, that which can be easily done right now. – When you finish dinner, wash your plate. When you are done with something, put it away. Don’t put off until later, that which can be easily done right now. Procrastination is a hard habit to break, make efficiency part of your routine in all aspects of your life to avoid slipping into negative behaviors. If it is going to take you less than a few minutes to complete a task, simply get it done and move on.
  17. Break big tasks into smaller more manageable ones. – Big tasks can be daunting and are more likely to get pushed aside or avoided altogether.  Take these large tasks and break them down into smaller, more manageable ones that are less likely to be avoided or put off. Big jobs like sorting through the garage or attic can be broken down into smaller jobs, try making goals such as, clear one corner, straighten and sort the stuff on the shelves, or unpack 4 boxes, etc.. Tackle one small task at a time and move on to the next only when you are ready. You will feel like you have accomplished something without feeling overwhelmed by the need to complete it all.
  18. Learn to cook, and make doubles. – Learning to cook is an important part of life, and one that can save you both time and money. When you cook for yourself at home make at least double what you will eat and freeze it to be consumed later. This is a great way to save cash, and it useful for those busy days when you just don’t feel like cooking.
  19. Don’t gossip, it will get you nowhere. – The rule to live by is ‘never say anything about someone that you wouldn’t say to their face comfortably.’ Gossip will get you nowhere, fast. Most importantly, usually the person you are engaging in the gossip with will be gossiping about you later! If you really want to know something about someone ask them, and if you have something to say about a person say it to their face. It is fine to have an opinion, but be careful who you share it with.
  20. Create a meal plan and stick to it. – Hand-in-hand with cooking for yourself, (See #18 above) creating a meal plan that you will stick to and utilize is a great way to save yourself time and money. Plan out everything that you are going to eat for a week and pick up all that you will need to prepare these meals in advance. This practice will help you avoid unnecessary trips to the grocery store, which often result in wasted time and wasted money with impulsive purchases. If you are really good you can create a monthly, or bi-weekly, plan and save yourself big time!
  21. Treat everyone with respect, and learn to have patience. – This lesson is an oldie but a goodie. Treat others the way you want to be treated yourself. Have respect for everyone you meet and learn the art of patience. Both these traits are valuable in all aspect of your life, and by utilizing them with others you will receive them in return.
  22. Don’t do it if you don’t enjoy it. – Life is too short to waste doing things you don’t enjoy. Honestly, if spinning class is not your favorite thing, quit and find a different form of exercise you enjoy. If you hate your job, find a new one. Dislike someone in your life, let them go. Don’t waste your time on things that don’t make you feel good or add your well-being in a positive way.
  23. Make Lists. – Lists are a great way of keeping track of things that you need to get done, items you need to buy, and things you want to see, find, or accomplish. I am not suggesting you become an obsessive list writer, but creating simple lists of priority items and placing them where you can see them is an easy way to remind yourself of the things you want to achieve. Just be sure you take the list with you, and are not simply wasting your time writing a list that will never be used. Not every one is a list writer, but if you find it works for you, utilize it.
  24. Surround yourself with positive people. – I have said it before and I will say it again; Negativity breeds negativity. If you want to live a more positive life than surround yourself with positive people who lift you up and make you feel good. If there is someone in your life that is bringing you down, bid them farewell and move on. You need not be nasty, sad or disheartened by the loss, simply look at the time you had together as a lesson learned and consider it making space in your life for bigger better things. The positive side of dealing with negative people is that you are able to learn what you ‘do’ want in friends and relations from what you don’t like about them.
  25. Embrace education. – Education is a life long journey, embrace it with an open mind and a willing heart. Never stop trying new things, learn every chance you get and always be open to new ideas. Knowledge is a major key to a happy and full life, you don’t need to be a highly educated genius, but face every moment as and opportunity to learn something new about yourself, others and life.
  26. Create a solid network, and expand upon it. – Never stop expanding your network. Meet new people and make new friends. Every single person we meet has the ability to teach us amazing things, all we have to do is be willing to accept the lessons they hold within. A strong network both personally and professionally can open doors that would have otherwise remained shut, so get out there and meet new people, you never know where you may end up.
  27. Explore your options. – A happy life consists of different things for different people, and for many of us a happy life is a never-ending journey. Always be willing to explore your options and experiment with your choices, just because everyone else does things a certain way doesn’t meant that is the way you have to do them. Look around, and within yourself, and do what is best for ‘you.’
  28. Pay attention to your health. – Good health is not just important for your expected lifespan, it is also a vital part of living a positive and happy life. Be sure that you get an annual check-up and take care of your body as best you can. Eating healthy, and being active will increase your personal well-being on both a physical and mental level, so take care of yourself and make sure that you are being the best ‘you’ that you can be.
  29. Smile. – Oh the joy of a smile. Such a small thing that can cause such a big difference. A smile takes little to no effort on your part, but it can easily effect everyone around you. Consider this: You pass by a man on the street that looks weathered and sad, you flash him a smile and immediately he brightens and a smile is returned to you. What you didn’t know was that this man has lost everything lately and was wandering the streets contemplating suicide, your smile showed him that there is still kindness in some people and it made him change his mind…. You just never know!
  30. Be thankful. – I wrote a great deal about gratitude in my earlier post and I cannot stress enough the importance of gratitude in your daily life. By being thankful for all that you are blessed with in life you will attract more things to be thankful for. You will make yourself and others feel appreciated, which in turn will make them feel good and will cause them to be thankful. It is a chain reaction that can stretch for miles, through millions of people, all over the world.grateful for
  31. Dare to dream. – Too often we are told to ‘grow up’ which is all a part of life, but for some reason for many of us growing up means losing sight of our dreams. Well, forget that… If that’s what growing up is I want to stay a kid forever. Let your imagination run free, dream of being rich and famous, pretend you’re a princess and aim to marry a prince. Never ever limit yourself, the sky truly is the limit… and sometimes beyond.
  32. Prioritize. – We all lead busy lives, have may things to do and sometimes feel overwhelmed. To beat the heat of stress and over working yourself be sure you prioritize your tasks accordingly. Consider what it is that is most important to you, what truly needs to be done, and face those things first. Work your way down to the least important things, those that really have no great effect on you or your well-being.
  33. Acknowledge your accomplishments. – Don’t go through life always focused on what you need to achieve, but instead on all that you have accomplished already. If you are constantly thinking of how you can do better, do more, without seeing all the great things you have done you will never be truly happy. A balanced life consists of both goals and achievements, so acknowledge yours today no matter how big or small they are reminders of your hard work and effort.
  34. Accept that change is inevitable and often good. – Big changes can be hard to deal with, but they are an inevitable part of life. The sooner you accept that you cannot avoid change and choose to embrace it, the happier and more fulfilled your life will be.
  35. Look at life as a series of lessons to be learned, and move on. – Each obstacle we face, challenge we battle and choice we make in life provides another lesson to be learned. The easiest way to a simpler life is to learn these lessons and move on to the next. Some of these lessons will be difficult, and they need to be, that is what creates strength and character.
  36. Realize that you can not know the truth, without first understanding both sides of the story. – Sometimes it is not about being right. Right is simply a matter of opinion. To truly know the truth at all, you must first be open to understanding both sides of a situation. So, instead of fighting to be right, (as right and truth are constantly changing on many subjects) be open instead to learning something new and forming an opinion.
  37. Regulate your routine. – Creating a good routine and sticking to it is an important part of simplifying your life. Ensure that you are getting enough sleep, that you are making time for family, friends and yourself, and that you schedule leaves you plenty of time to do those things that make you happiest.
  38. Set goals for yourself, both large and small, and work towards them. – Having goals is a great way to challenge yourself. When considering goals it is best to create both short and long-term goals to achieve. Small goals will bring you quick satisfaction, usually while helping you along the path towards you larger, more long-term ones.
  39. Never stop discovering who you truly are. – It is amazing how quickly we grow and change as humans. Never stop discovering who you truly are. You can do this by taking time to yourself and doing things you enjoy, trying new things, and exploring your mental well-being. Self-discovery is a life long journey, and one that can be very rewarding. By discovering who you are inside, without the worry of what others will think, you will be walking down the road directly towards true happiness and fulfillment.
  40. Realize that simplicity, happiness and success take time and effort. – There is no “get rich quick” scheme for simplifying your life, being happy or attaining success. All of these things take hard work , but the result is well worth the effort you will put in. Do what feels right for you and always see life as something to be enjoyed. Have fun and never stop trying to be the best person you can be.
“The most complex things are the simplest.” – Agni Celeste
Do you have any tips to make life easier?
How do you get through each day?
What piece of advice have you received that has made your life simpler?
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Until Next Time…
Simplify Your Life. 

Growing Through Gratitude

If you truly want to attract more positive things into your life, the best thing you can do is show your gratitude for the people and things you already have.

What makes gratitude so important?

Gratitude, appreciation and love are positive feelings. They send out a positive message (or vibration for those of you who follow the Law of Attraction) and they simply make you, and others, feel good.

Living a life where you are openly grateful for the things around you leads to more things to be grateful for. The more positive thoughts you think, the more positive thoughts you think, and so on… The cycle repeats itself.

Adding conscious gratitude to your life does not have to be difficult, but the benefits are great. Gratitude is a simple act that you can do daily with little to no effort on your part. One way I work gratitude in to my daily routine is by thinking of something I can appreciate first thing every morning. As I open my eyes in the morning I think of one thing that I can be thankful for that day, this gets my day started on a positive note and helps me to rise happy and prepared for the day ahead.

Another great tool for living life with appreciation is a journal. A gratitude journal (or appreciation journal) is a wonderful way for you to keep track of all the things you have to be thankful for in life. Taking 5 minutes a day to jot down even 5 things you are thankful for is a great way to remind yourself of all the amazing things you have in your life. Also, by keeping a journal of all the things you are thankful for, you will be able to look back on them when you are feeling down, stressed or during moments when negative thoughts are creeping into your mind. Your journal does not have to be anything fancy, a basic notebook or file on your computer will do just fine, the point is to get yourself thinking about the positive things in your life, instead of focusing on the negative ones.

Try it out right now, list 5 things you are grateful for at this moment…
(Feel free to list them in the comment section if you like)

Thinking about the things you are thankful for in life helps to immediately lift your mood, at least slightly, and doing this daily (especially at the start or end of the day, or both, if possible) will improve your mood permanently over time. Not only will it improve your mood, it will also improve the mood of those closest to you, it will attract more positive people and things into your life, and it will make you more relaxed overall.

Gratitude is a powerful thing, and should be used to your advantage as much as possible. Every day we see and hear things that conjure up negative thoughts, feelings, and reactions. The news broadcasts stories of horrible violence and suffering, both throughout the world and close to home. Movies and television portray negative relationships, actions and emotions, and we often focus on things in our lives that are going wrong. Gratitude can help curb a large amount of the negativity we deal with each day and will pull your mind back to the positive side of life where it will benefit you most.

Make the choice today to invite in positivity, and to be more thankful for all that you are blessed with. This small action can not hurt, and can only add to your life… You’ve got nothing to lose, so what are you waiting for?

Until Next Time

Be Thankful!

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How has using a Gratitude Journal helped you?
What are you thankful for?

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Creating “Me” Time in a Chaotic World

The world today is a crazy and chaotic place and we are constantly busy with one thing or another. People today have developed a damaging habit of taking care of other people and priorities before tending to their own needs. This is especially true for women, and even more so for those women that are mothers, with children to tend to and houses to keep, careers to focus on and endless to-do lists, it is no wonder our personal needs get so easily pushed aside. Amid all this chaos it is easy for us to forget, and even neglect, ourselves allowing our needs and goals to simmer on the back burner of life until they eventually filter out all together.

Imagine putting a pot of stew on the back of your stove and leaving it there for days, weeks, even years. Once you re-discovered that stew it would be spoiled and unusable and chances are it would not resemble anything even close your original plan. Your needs are a lot like this, left to sit they stale, they rot, and they eventually get lost amongst the chaos and calamity that is our daily lives. By the time we discover that we have not been tending to these needs they are often twisted, contorted, or lost altogether and on occasion it is too late to make a new pot of stew! 

It is important that you find time to care for your needs, both physically and mentally, and to work towards your personal goals in life. For some reason people have a tendency to feel bad for taking time to themselves, they consider this act selfish. The truth is, there is nothing wrong with being selfish!

With so many other obligations in life it is important that you are in tip-top shape personally. How else are you going to be able to achieve all the things you do for others, and truly be happy doing so?

Finding the time to spend on yourself can be difficult when you lead a busy life and maintain the many roles  as we often do in today’s world, but it is well worth the effort and can greatly affect your well-being. It can even change your life!

Below is an outline that will help you find the “Me” time you deserve and require. 

  • The first step in making “Me” time is to Assess what you will do with your time once you have acquired it.  – Make a list of all the things that you would love to do if you only had the time. As you review this list consider and record the ways you are ‘actually‘ spending your free time. Are any of the things on your want list actually getting accomplished? Are you spending any time working towards these goals? Are you spending any time doing ‘anything‘ you really wantto do?It is important that we first discover what it is we want in order to achieve it at all. Be honest with yourself and forget about money, time restraints or other obligations. Write down what you ‘truly‘ want to spend your free time doing. It can be as small as reading a good book, or as big as backpacking across the country. The sky is the limit. The point is to assess how you are spending your time currently, and how you want to be spending your time in reality.
  • Now that you know what you want to do with your time, you need to Make the time. – Keep track of all the things you are doing in a day for a week and simply cut out the clutter. Keep a diary if you must, and trim time where you can. The best way to make time out of your current schedule is to either get help or get rid of.Get help can mean any number of things, perhaps there are items on your current daily lists that could be passed onto others. Sure, chances are the kids won’t clean the floors as good as you will, but getting over perfection is also a big part of getting back your time. If most of your “Me” time is spent cleaning the house, consider hiring a maid service, even if they only come in once a week, or once a month, it will save you an ample amount of time on your own cleaning and free up a large amount of time to yourself. The same goes for time you spend chauffeuring the kids around, consider a neighborhood carpool schedule and invest in bus passes for your older kids.Consider this: even ten minutes of driving a day is over an hour extra per week that you could be spending doing something you actually enjoy!

    Get rid of means just that. If it does nothing for you, is not a necessity, and you don’t enjoy it, get rid of it! This can be things like PTA Meetings, or that knitting club you started attending a few years back but absolutely hate going to now. It can be little things like constantly checking your email, organizing your recycling or daily mopping of the floors. If it is something you can’t get rid of altogether (because as much as we would all love to never wash the floors again, we sort of have to.) than find ways to cut the time you spend doing it by at least half, and consider how it can be done more efficiently. (E.g.: Instead of mopping daily, do a thorough mop weekly, and spot clean as needed)

    Find five things in your life that you can either get help with or get rid of, even freeing up 15 minutes of time a day will make a huge difference overall. Once you have freed up that time take it and use it to do something you actually want to be doing from the list you created.

  • Now that you know what you want to be doing, and you have the time to do theses things, it is time to Avoid Distractions. – It is amazing how much of our down time is wasted on silly distractions. By eliminating little distractions that are eating up your “Me” time, you will be more efficient in attacking your ‘want’ list.Distractions are anything that is not necessary or geared toward your goals.For example: email, telephones, texting, social sites, and television are the top distractions that take up our precious time. To help you beat your distractions stay away from triggers. Turn off your phone or close the door while you are working on your goal. Watch only the T.V. shows you truly love and then turn off the set. Television is the number one way to truly ‘waste’ time that could be better spent on something that will actually benefit you.This policy of distraction avoidance should be carried on to other aspects of your life as well. At work avoid checking your email constantly throughout the day, forward calls to an assistant or co-worker when you are busy, and avoid chatting at the water cooler or hanging back after your break. It is a habit that will quickly increase your productivity and help you free up usable time for yourself.Imagine all the little things that eat up your time each day, now choose at least 10 and cut them out immediately.
  • With free time that is now free of distractions, all you have to do is Stick to your routine. – Now that you have freed up some “Me” time all you have to do is use it. To ensure that you don’t revert back to old habits and end up wasting your precious time, pencil in your “Me” time as part of your regular routine. There is something about putting things in writing that makes them less likely to be brushed aside or avoided.Do not schedule any other appointment, meetings or invitations during this time and make sure that others know you will be unavailable.One of the biggest reasons that people neglect their own personal time is for fear of letting someone else down, don’t worry about others at this time, focus on yourscheduled time.Remember it’s written in your routine so avoiding it means you are letting yourself down, and you are equally important as any other person in your life!

Once you begin to look at the way you spend your time each day you will start to see things that can be changed. For many of us our days go by in a hasty blur where we are constantly on the move and never really focused on the task at hand. By forcing yourself to focus on what you are actually spending your time on, you will be able to pin point exactly what you do and do not want to be doing.

Most importantly, don’t feel selfish. Having time to yourself to enjoy your passions, goals, or just piece of mind is a major part of living a positive and well-balanced lifestyle. Never feel bad for taking time to improve on your most valuable asset, YOU.

It may feel strange at first, especially if you are used to spending all of your time doing for others, but after while you will start to feel good about this special time, and by feeling good yourself you will be far better use to others.

Remember Happiness and Positivity are Contagious.

Until Next Time…

Enjoy Yourself!

How do you ensure that you get time to yourself?

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Imperfection is a Negative Obsession

Many people spend their lives in a losing battle obsessing about the way things ‘should be,’ instead of rejoicing and enjoying the way things are.  When we are focused on ‘fixing’ things, we can not truly be at peace with ourselves or be thankful for all that we have in life.

Focusing on fixing something is sending the message that we are dissatisfied with our life, discontent with our surroundings. It implies negativity, and as we covered in the previous post, negativity breeds more negativity.

Whether we are focused on something we dislike about ourselves such as, our image, job, home or lifestyle; or focused on something we don’t like about others such as, their attitude, appearance, or way of living. Focusing on imperfections in a negative obsession that will bring you down.

This is not to say that there will not be ‘better’ ways of doing things, or that you should not strive to do your best and have your life the way you want it, the point is simply to find ways to be content with the way things are right now. Whether you are obsessed with losing ten pounds, getting a better job, having a more organized household or being closer with your partner, don’t focus on the things you need/want to ‘fix,’ but rather on all the things that are right, right now.

Shifting focus away from imperfections can be a very difficult thing to achieve, and can take a great deal of time and practice. Each time you catch yourself thinking of the way things ‘should be‘ remind yourself  of what you are content with at the moment. Doing this often enough will help you to create a routine, and once a routine is set it becomes automatic. In no time at all you will find your focus is more positive and that the little things that needed fixing have either fixed themselves, or didn’t actually need fixing at all.

Until Next Time…

Enjoy the Little Things.

The Importance of Positivity

Millions of people world-wide purchased and read the book ‘The Secret’ by Rhonda Byrne.’ The main point of this best-selling self-help book is that the universe is governed by a natural law called ‘The Law of Attraction.’

To put it briefly the law of attraction states: whatever you focus on most will create a frequency and attract back to your life what you are sending out.
The book itself states that it doesn’t matter whether what you are thinking about is positive or negative, the universe sees only that you are focusing on that feeling, emotion or thing and sends you more of it.

With this theory you must consider the way you think, if you are constantly thinking about how you never have enough money, you will attract back the same issue of never having enough money. If instead you were to change your thought pattern and think more about the positive associations attached to the money you do have, you will attract back more positive things.

The theory is simple; whatever you think, you create in your life.
It is the age-old theory that ‘everything happens for a reason‘ and if you haven’t yet, I suggest you read ‘The Secret‘ or one of the many other books about the Law of Attraction. There is an abundance of information available online as well, and is worth the research and review.

Whether you believe in the Law of Attraction or not, the basics are an important part of everyday life. We all know (usually through experience) that negativity breeds negativity.

Positivity is important in all aspects of life for many different reasons. You may not have the desire to attract riches, relationships, or success, fortune and fame, but having a positive attitude, being aware of your thoughts, and being a positive person in general, is a great way to improve your well-being and the overall quality of your life.

What makes positivity so important?

A positive attitude is important for a great many reasons. Having a positive attitude helps you cope more easily with the responsibilities of everyday life and helps to relieve stress and strengthen personal relationships. A positive attitude will help you to avoid worrying unnecessarily and will enhance your physical and mental well-being.

We have all had to deal with a ‘Negative Nelly‘ at one time or another throughout our lives. A Negative Nelly is that person who is always full of complaints and is never satisfied with anything that happens in their life. If you have ever been around a ‘Negative Nelly‘ for an extended period of time you know how draining this type of person can be and effect they can have on your own level of positivity. Negativity is exhausting, it takes a ton of effort and it doesn’t do one bit of good for anyone.

Having a positive attitude is actually quite easy to achieve. It consists mainly of being aware of your thoughts, actions and reactions and making the choice to do what makes you feel good. Even with its simplicity, the benefits of being positive are endless.

Benefits of Positivity:

  • A positive attitude helps you to achieve your goals.
  • It strengthens personal relationships and makes people more comfortable around you.
  • Positivity creates a greater level of happiness and a more fulfilling life.
  • Positive thinking and a positive attitude will give you more physical and mental energy.
  • Positivity will give you inner strength.
  • Being positive will help you inspire others and yourself.
  • Positivity helps to lower stress levels and makes difficult situations easier to handle.
  • A positive attitude will help you gain the respect of co-workers, friends, family and strangers.

These are only a few of the endless benefits of being positive and having a positive attitude, there are too many to list them all. The truth is that having a positive attitude and living in a positive way can change your entire life. I bet you are wondering exactly how one gains a positive attitude and lives a positive life? The answer is simple, by choice…

How to Be More Positive:

  • Make a choice – Happiness is not a place, object, or situation, it is a state of mind and it is a choice you make for yourself.
  • See the lessons in every situation – By seeing the bright side of every situation and taking each moment as a lesson learned you will greatly improve your positive outlook and avoid a great deal of stress. There is silver lining in every single cloud, seek it out.
  • Look for the little things – Each and every day look for something that will make you smile. There are a million little things in life that will easily put a smile on your face or remind you that you have much to be grateful for. Find a few of these things each day and take the time to appreciate them, even if just for a moment.
  • Demolish doubt – Doubt, in any form, is a negative emotion. Erase doubt by keeping faith in yourself, and the world, and by knowing that everything happens for a reason. Each time you catch yourself doubting something turn that doubt into a positive thought and remind yourself that even the worst situations provide a lesson to be learned.
  • Practice positivity – Negative thinking is something that is learned over time, it is a bad habit, just like smoking or biting your nails. The only way to truly rid yourself of this habit is to practice and be persistent, you can do this by paying attention to your thoughts, correcting negative reactions, and finding things to be thankful for each day (I will get into this in more detail over time and help you to find ways to harness your positivity on a more conscious level).

  • Follow a lead – Role models and mentors are used for many different roles in life. Finding someone to model your career, home, style and family around can be very inspiring and help you to learn a great deal. Find someone positive that you admire and follow their lead. Having a role model or even the support of a positive friend can be helpful in keeping you positive. There is nothing wrong with asking for help and having a good support system is part of living a positive life. It is also important to surround yourself with positive people if you hope to be more positive yourself. I spoke earlier about the ‘Negative Nelly’s’ of the world and how draining they can be, people like this can test (and sometimes even destroy) all of the hard work you have spent moving towards positive living. It is important that you distance yourself from these ‘negative’ type people as much as possible, and if you cannot distance yourself (say they are your partner, parent or child) then you must work hard to learn how to deal with them without becoming negative yourself (again, this is something we will look at more in-depth in future posts).

  • Educate yourself – Read, watch and research as much as you can about the benefits of positivity and ways you can incorporate it into your life. The more you know the more likely you are to utilize this knowledge. The internet, the library and even magazines are great sources of information, with the popularity and interest in the Law of Attraction since the release of The Secret articles and information about the benefits of positive living are readily available and easy to access.
  • Get inspired – Quotes, Stories and Photos are a great way to inspire yourself to achieve your goals and keep a positive outlook on life. I will be posting some inspiring quotes on this site in the near future, but in the meantime take a moment to seek out things that inspire you and look at them regularly to remind yourself who you want to be, and what you hope to achieve. Inspiration can come in any form and does not have to be a story, photo or quote, perhaps you would be inspired writing your own thoughts, quotes or stories. Maybe a short walk or a relaxing moment in a favorite place is what will inspire you. It doesn’t matter how you get inspired, the main point of finding this inspiration is to help you relax and remember all the good things that life has to offer.
  • Associate affirmations – Some people enjoy using affirmations to promote positivity. Affirmations are simply a declaration of something that is true. People use affirmations by speaking them aloud or writing them down and posting them where they will be seen regularly. This helps to remind them of the positive things in their life. Some examples of positive affirmations include; I rejoice in the love I encounter every day, When I believe in myself so do others, I am perfect just the way I am, I am at peace, I trust that everything will be just fine. Some people use affirmations that confirm the goal they are aiming to achieve, and many do this by acting as if they have already achieved this goal. For example: I am the ideal weight for me, I attract only healthy relationships, I am successful in my career, etc… I choose to use generalized affirmations that state facts for the moment or leave room to grow, but it is all about personal preference. Affirmations are a great way to remind yourself what you are aiming to achieve and that which you have already accomplished. They are also useful in pointing out the little positives that are always around us in our lives.
  • Master meditation – I am not one to sit down in silence for long periods of time and so meditation comes to me in a different form than some, but I do make a point of taking time to just be. Meditation is about enjoying the silence and letting go of the burdens of the day, you can do this in any place, at any time, in any way you feel comfortable. Research meditation online for useful tips, helpful instructions, or tools that can help you to relax. Otherwise another option is simply just to find a quiet place and let your mind, body and soul relax clearing your mind of any clutter and focusing simply on being at peace.

There are literally hundreds of ways to incorporate positivity into your daily life, and those listed above are just a few simple suggestions. No one is expected to do all of these things, all of the time, but taking the time to do what you can will make a huge difference in your overall level of positivity. As I said before, we will go more in-depth into these things as time goes on, this is just an overview of how simple living a positive life can truly be and how even simple actions on your part can have a huge impact on the world around you. I suggest you do a little research, and of course subscribe here for future posts. If you want to improve your life there is no better way than adopting a positive attitude.

Until Next Time…

Have Fun!